You’re strong, you’re honest…So, that makes you a bitch?
Ah, as if the world didn’t have enough negative words that were associated with being a strong woman. So, I guess the truth is that I’m one of the biggest bitches I know. I don’t let people walk all over me (most of the time) and I stand up for what I believe in. Yet, I’m called a ‘bitch’ for being that. It’s almost as though we’re given a label with negative connotations because strong and honest is something that a woman should not be.
After I recently holiday with a handful of strangers (friends of friends to be exact) I became increasingly paranoid that everyone thought I was a bitch, not because I was a nasty person, or I would talk about everyone negatively but because I kept myself to myself and did my own thing, because that’s just what I wanted to do. Which is ridiculous, right? So I thought it was about time I pondered into the fact of why we view this as a negative trait. It’s time to dig deep, folks!
The B Word.
– A malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, especially a woman.
– A lewd woman.
– Disparaging and Offensive. Any woman.
Yep, that’s right. The description above is taken from an online dictionary. Let’s just take a moment to appreciate that this word is apparently exclusive to women. Of course, men can’t be a bitch, because men obviously can’t be selfish or unpleasant or malicious. Just us women.
I honestly cannot think of any negative words that are aimed purely at men. I mean let me know If I’m wrong, however, I can’t think of a good handful of words that are associated with women. Bitch, slag, whore, slut, you name it, it’s probably associated with women. The thing is, men can be those things too. Men can be selfish and rude and well, bitches.
I class myself as a very honest person. I’ve been brought up single handily by my mother, who always taught me that telling that honesty was the best policy and that ‘I wouldn’t get into trouble’ if I told the truth. Which i’m assuming is something that we were told to do as children. However, in adult life, it’s as though we should all keep it zipped and say the right things, whether it’s the truth or not
If being strong & honest makes me a bitch, then I guess I’m a bitch.
Who remembers the T-shirts of Donald Trump & Hillary Clinton that had the slogan ‘Trump That Bitch’ splattered across them? There was this whole debate of Trump supporters condemned to calling Clinton a bitch and Clinton supporters encouraged her to be more of one. It truly shows the divide in how the word is associated with both the good and bad. I sort of love how the Clinton supporters took it as a positive as appose to a negative as the Trump supporters attended. Sort of like when Trump called Clinton a ‘Nasty Woman’ and feminists and Clinton supporters around the world turned it into something positive. Now the phrase ‘Nasty Woman’ is associated with being a strong woman who fights for what she believes in, so if that be, than I pride myself on being a super nasty woman.
The Oxford English Dictionary defines the meaning of bitch as “a malicious or treacherous woman” or “something outstandingly difficult or unpleasant”. But other (more modern) dictionary definitions say the words use is no longer as a term of abuse.
While us girls more than often affectionately refer to friends as “bitches”, the term “bitchin” is commonly used as a positive description by young people in the US. “Bitch” can also be used as a verb, meaning to “complain”. Or changing it to “biatch” can add humour to a conversation. I guess the meaning of the word is slowly becoming more and more dependant on how it used and how the person on the receiving end interprets it.
With that, It does seem as though the thought of being called a bitch is becoming less and less offensive, which I think is why we need to drop it being a negative thing all together. I mean, if being a bitch means that I’m honest and strong then that’s what I want to be forever and always – You can put it on my grave stone for all I care.
With that, the term ‘bitch’ is slowly becoming a term of endearment. The amount of times I dramatically say ‘biiiiiiitch’ mid-sentance to my best friend is ridiculous. There’s so many t-shirts on the high-street at the moment with ‘Bitch’ as the slogan, as well as so many songs and movies in witch the phrase is used in a positive lime light and more of a nickname, rather than a nasty comeback. It’s time for us women (and men) to reclaim the word and turn it into something positive.
Let’s own it, Bitch.
Back to my first point of me feeling as though I was ‘being a bitch’ on holiday, simply because I did my own thing and was true to my opinions (mostly during drunken political chats) I get that me being paranoid about it is completely pre-meditaed and after numerous conversations with my boyfriend before we went to bed each night, he would constantly ensure me that no-one thought I was a bitch. However, now that I’ve thought about it for a few weeks and started to ponder on the facts of it being a word that is slowly losing it’s offensive touch, the truth is that I’m happy to be called or considered a bitch. From now on, I’m going to own being one because at least I know that I’m honest and strong and if people cannot handle that and feel the need to perceive it as something negative then so be it. I’m proud to be a nasty woman and a bitch.
shop the look, bitches.
I hope you enjoyed this post, it’s something a little different and I’d love to hear your thoughts. So, throw you’re penny for thought in the comments down bellow.
Speak soon, bitches.