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Friday, 3 March 2017

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF


I'm a seriously guilty of comparing myself to other, to the point that it dramatically affects my self-confidence, how I view myself entirely. Although the remark "Stop comparing yourself" sounds completely unhelpful, however recently this has been something that I've continuously had to remind myself when I begin to bring myself down. 

I think when you enter the blogging world, you're automatically compared to every other blogger out there, and you as an individual aren't every other blogger. I've spoken a lot before about personal style and how blogging can sometimes effect that as you're trying to stay relevant with what's 'trendy' and I've definitely overcome that and have become a lot more comfortable with my personal style and dressing how I want to dress. Blogging opens you up to a lot of self-criticism and doubt.  Although I have pretty amazing followers and receive some really lovely comments,  there's no-one of authority around you to say "You're doing well, good job". Although I don't blog full time, I still view it as a job and it's hard to know when you're performing well and on the right track, numbers and views may say that however, if I had 100 views on a blog post or 10,000 it wouldn't bother me purely because I've always blogged because I genuinely enjoy it. 

When I started my blog almost 4 years ago, It really wasn't as popular as it is today. The blogging community has doubled, tripled I'd even go as far as saying and with that brings a lot of people creating amazing content and doing so well for themselves. When you're in the same industry and trying to make your way in the blogging world, this can occasionally be disheartening however, I've recently began to appreciate all the amazing bloggers out there and the incredible, different and stimulating content that they've brought to the plate. It's made me realise that I can do it too and that I shouldn't compare myself to other bloggers, as doing my own thing works so much more. 

My whole life, I've spent a lot of time comparing how I look to how others look and not going to lie, this has really destroyed parts of my life and I find it really difficult to talk about. Although there's a 101 things I'd change about myself and I live with a lot of insecurities that I have to battle every day, I find the best remedy for this is to focus on the fact that you're the only person like you on the planet. You can compare yourself to anyone and everyone, however, you'll never be like them and they will never be like you. 

It's important to focus on the qualities that you have,  what clothes suit you, the photos that you take, the words that you write and focus on how they're all unique and they're all you. Although it sounds really cringy and pretentious, It's true. You do you. People will read your blog because it's different and 'you' and people will love the way you look and how you dress and your personality because it's what makes you, you. You can spend your entire life comparing yourself, however it will only distroy you. 


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9 comments

  1. I agree, it's not fare to compare yourself to others - I am just enjoying what I do no matter how many followers or views I get , I write about the things I love and that's all that matters


    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

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  2. They don't say that comparison is the thief of joy for no reason. I couldn't agree more though with this post!

    Jodie // jodieloue.com

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  3. Your tights are awesome, and I know exactly how you feel because even though I know I shouldn't I still compare myself to every single person I see through social media and I just can't help but note all the differences and all the things I lack. It really does crush whatever self-confidence you're fighting to hold on to. My advice is spend more time looking at flat lays and less at people haha :) thank you for sharing. I love your style, those tights are perfection xxx

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

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  4. i love this post, i think we're all a little guilty of this sometimes. i know exactly how you feel!
    jen | velvet spring x

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  5. Brilliant post. You used my favourite saying! 'You do you'. More self love is needed in this world.

    I love your style of writing as well. It flows :)

    I wrote something similar which I think you'll like called 'Embrace your face'

    https://creatinghappyminds.wordpress.com/2017/03/12/embrace-your-face/

    Happy blogging,

    Rosie Mauu x

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  6. Lovely read, I wrote something similar!

    I'm all about staying in my lane, comparing is such self destructive behaviour!

    Abby x | www.caucasianlifestyle.com

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  7. Lovely read, I wrote something similar!

    I'm all about staying in my lane, comparing is such self destructive behaviour!

    Abby x | http://www.qtiwa.com

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